@konacoconutz – thank you for your kind words. People need to be accountable for their actions; the owner’s rep knew I was planning a big event involving multiple parties, and I had discussed cancellation at length with the rep.
Thank you but I only mentioned my background to add credibility to my post, I do not wish to gain from your problem. You can look at any resort or hotel and they provide excellent wedding services. If you don’t need to be in Florida I highly recommend The Meridian Club on Pine Cay in the Turks and Caicos islands. You can probably get the whole resort to yourselves and they were not affected by the hurricane. I wish you and your daughter the best!
@konacoconutz – thank you for your clarification; I actually have read the Forum Guidelines and I appreciate the time you take to be a moderator. I think it may be helpful to describe what “no real life” means in the guidelines; it confused me since people are regularly posting their listings for feedback and that’s “real life”.
@Maggieroni – thank you for the suggestion but we don’t want a destination wedding. We don’t want to impose travel expenses on our guests.
Details…
Names, addresses, “outing” someone even if you post enough information for someone to Google and find you.
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I’m so sorry this happened to you. What a horrible experience. I don’t think that anything you do will compel the owner to rent to you for your daughter’s wedding. However, if I were you I would call Airbnb to ask them to delist the property. I saw it on Zillow before your post with the address was removed. I can’t imagine any reason that anyone would book that property except to have an event. Therefore, if the owner doesn’t want to host events, the property should be removed from Airbnb so that others don’t suffer the same problems as you are going through.
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@EllenN – thank you for your kind message. I still have not had the heart to share the “news” with my family; it’s all my fault as I “found” this property and suggested it as a venue for the wedding. I will check if the property was delisted.
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@MissMiami I would tell your daughter as soon as possible. Of course she will be upset. But why would she think it’s your fault that a third party you have no connection with decided to cancel?
It will be much easier to share the burden of finding somewhere else together.
I am sure your daughter had done research before you booked the Airbnb listing and she and her groom and other friends and family can help identify suitable places from their own knowlege and other places they had already shortlisted.
You never know they might even be pleased not to have such a big event.
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@Helsi – alas, no, my daughter lives with me and she has no idea of alternative locations and neither does the groom. My daughter and I are very close, she wouldn’t even select the envelope for the invitation without discussing it with me. We often joke that we share the same brain…
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Well then let her stretch her wings a little and let her and her groom do some of their own research.
Most brides and grooms enjoy planning their own wedding,
It’s no bad thing for her to learn to be a little more independent.
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It sounds like you have worked very hard, and the plan was a good one. I would be venting too. A normal wedding venue is usually quite souless, and this would have been stunning. I’m hoping a new site will be found that is what you want.
@Helsi – yes, the bride is very independent! She has a job in which she manages over 30 people and owns several properties. We are just very close and family-oriented. Her wedding is not a learning experience on growth 
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I think it must be very different in Miami - we have lots of beautiful castles, mansions, country houses that are anything but souless which we use as wedding venues.
I am sure a wedding planner could help Miss Miami’s daughter identify some suitable alternatives.
It doesn’t have to be all hotels.
And there must be more than one suitable venue in such a major city.
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@Louise – thank you Louise, I’m cool and collected and I’m usually everyone’s mentor and advisor, yet, this has totally upsets me.
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I’m sorry that you’re getting unsolicited child rearing advise on a forum that is supposed to be dedicated to Airbnb hosting. It must be frustrating.
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@EllenN - wow you’ve found another opportunity for you to have a go at me …you must be so pleased.
- We are talking about an adult daughter not a child
- The OP was discussing issues to do with a wedding she booked not about her role as an Airbnb host.
In what world do you live in where it wouldn’t be normal for a bride to be involved in planning the venue and accommodation for her wedding. Of course the bride would want to help. And wouldn’t want the mother to carry all the stress by herself.
As you know @EllenN we often go off topic and don’t stick to discussing hosting. You have done it yourself. Please stop being hypocritical.
It feels rather like bullying when you constantly pick on myself and a few others.
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I certainly agree, but it was completely and utterly out of her control. We all know as hosts that canceling a reservation is a simple matter of clicking a button.
I know it’s too late and it doesn’t help you now but I guess we must all realize that Airbnb does not make a great platform for booking important events several months in the future. Anything can happen. Host can die, host can get evicted, host can sell property, host can get shut down by municipalities, host can delist. To name a few.
I had a guest last year who booked in the high season and was so thrilled upon arriving. Why? Because he had booked a bunch of Airs on different islands and I was the only host of three others in Hawaii who didn’t cancel on him. He said if it weren’t for me, he would hate Airbnb and not use them.
So when I book a holiday, especially an expensive one a ways out, I only book hotels.
That’s just a long, tangential way of saying that I think Airs are good for alternative accommodations, not for booking Big important events.
You’ll recover from this. There are plenty of other places out there.
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