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Oh! I get it now. Those are the only requests that I’ve actually turned down. That makes me really uncomfortable…I’m glad to know it’s against the TOS.
What I’ve had happen is a parent trying to book for an adult child. NO WAY! I’ve had this happen a few times. Because I don’t have IB on, I’ve just told them to get the kid to make an account for themselves and then we will talk.
I can see how with IB this is a cancellation issue though…and I can also see how IB is a different style of hosting altogether.
Where I live we have a very definite high season (May-October with strong July-August) and a very slack low season. So I get the chance to do it all again with some space in between.
I’m trying to make sense of what I’ve just been through and gather some insight from experienced hosts! So thank you for your reply, I appreciate it.
As for the extra guests…My spaces are very small. Like, if you wanna cram a third person into a single room…I don’t know what to say to you about that!
I’ve got a small room and have only had one set of guests bring a third person. After that I put a house rule that said one or two only, anyone arriving with 3 will be cancelled on immediately. Hopefully it won’t happen again.
What a hassle! I hope that doesn’t happen again to you either!
This is what I mean about being a hall monitor…honestly this forum has been really helpful in creating come context for the really bizarre and confusing human activity I’ve seen over the last few months! I don’t want to be reprimanding people or forcing them to follow rules…but seriously, please follow my basic rules!
It is OK to take your time before making major changes to your hosting style like switching to IB or changing what you offer. I think you need to be really firm in your boundaries and knowledgeable of your market to succeed on IB, but also know when to let things go. It’s a balance between having a steel spine but also not sweating the small stuff. This just takes experience. Like I said, it took over a year-and-a-half before I was comfortable. I started posting here the first month I was hosting, and used this forum to focus on smaller improvements. I did find the advice here immensely helpful in warding of those unwanted guests. My first guests were the absolute worst I’ve ever had, and it was my rookie mistakes that attracted them!
Thanks for this! I am going to take some time, peruse this site and think about how I want to change my listings…and I think for starters having 2 listings sharing a bathroom is not great and I’d like to have just one listing with a private bathroom. I feel like I learned a lot this summer. It was really busy, and my town is really competitive. I think for me the biggest challenge is shaking off criticism that isn’t constructive, and knowing when to ignore that stuff and when to act on it.
Is there a thread for rookie mistakes? Cause I do feel like that would be helpful, and also I could add a few there!!
I think the biggest is using self-check in. I was offering to meet people in person but couldn’t always organize it. Self check in is the best for me, and with experience I’m learning which guests will have trouble with it.
I think I set my prices too low (as per AirBnB suggestions!) and that attracted a bargain hunter style of person. I changed them pretty quickly but could always tell when a guest was being strange that they were one of the ones who had booked in at the discount rate.
I had a guest show up a day late for a 4 day booking (couldn’t be bothered to let me know) and I didn’t put that in the review. He also destroyed a set of sheet slathering himself in coconut oil (it was disgusting!) and I didn’t put that in my review either. I feel like reluctance to be honest in my reviews is a rookie mistake.
I think knowing that new users of the service will often leave confusing reviews and are less likely to thoroughly read the listing description and know what is a good style of booking for them.
I didn’t put explicitly in my listing that there is no use of the kitchen or any space downstairs. Similarly, I just didn’t really understand at first how important a clear separation of our living space and that of the guests was going to be, so I had a few uncomfortable moments with early guests.
Refining what the ‘guest interactions’ might be with me as host. Essentially, I’m not that into hosting people in my private space, and since the listing is for rooms in homes (even though they are separated). I just want to say hi, give them tips and point them in the direction of town. I don’t want to have dinner or interact with them in my private space. It took me a few weeks to figure that out and to make it explicit in the listing, even though my partner is very clear on this boundary.
Clarity about amenities being really accurate…I think I wanted the listing to sound “attractive” at first. Accurate is attractive lol.
Since there are two listings, and one has a private living room and one doesn’t, telling people to keep the doors closed when they are out - so that they don’t come home to some inexperienced guests eating cheetos in their space. Which happened.
I’m one of the few people posting here who has hosted two different ways in essentially the same space. I started out as the traditional bedroom in someone’s home. People would stay in the guest room and use the bathroom across the hall. They could use my back patio, kitchen and living area. Though I had some very nice interactions I also had some I didn’t enjoy. After I retired from teaching and could devote more time to Airbnb I remodeled my house to put a separate entrance, add an ensuite bathroom and completely block them from my part of the house.
I absolutely recommend it if there is any way you can swing it at all. Take out a window and put in a door, put a room divider up in the hall blocking off from your areas, etc. I spent $16,000 doing it and could pay cash but I realize for others this can be an unaffordable expense. But it’s worth starting to think about now if you value your privacy.
This is really great validation for me. It’s something my partner and I were discussing just this morning. We have a plan that will offer the same thing you are describing - the guests will have a separate entrance, have a private bathroom and two rooms upstairs. We are even considering some plumbing. There will be a divider cutting off the other two rooms upstairs (one I was renting out as a single private room, which was very popular). There are a few options for accessing those additional bedrooms, (there is a balcony - could put in an exterior staircase) and even thinking of making into another separate bachelor apartment. We do the work ourselves; doing this kind of work on the house is partly why we host - so that we can pay for upgrading our home.
I thought I was going to be more comfortable sharing spaces. I’m not! I didn’t anticipate having to be the bathroom police between guests - I’m also not comfortable with that either.
People who think that their problem should be my problem.
“I know check-out is at 11:00 and you said I could check-out at 12:00 but that doesn’t help me because I need to take a nap between pre-lims and finals, so I will need to checkout closer to 3:00. Thanks!”
I also rent rooms in my home. All are long term. As a result I need to be extra sensitive to guests coming in. Everyone seems pretty happy. So when a prospective guest starts out by asking for extras, special consideration, and over and above, I wonder why. The price is right, so why am I doing this?
Some people want to feel “special”. I don’t make enough margin to cater to this. Nor quite frankly do I have the patience. So I pleasantly decline.
I also encourage you to experiment with price. I have a room that shows very well. I was busy and temporarily tripled the price to get it out of my hair. It booked. For a month.
currently awaiting a bad fit, coming later this week. Two ladies are having the two rooms, the one that booked said “I know you have a dog, I’m allergic to dog hair”. Okaaaay, dog is fairly allergy friendly, should be ok. “do you have a fridge and a hair dryer?” I mentioned that it might be good to re-vist the listing details, but that may always come across as me being moody.
