I’m tired of bad hosts making good hosts seem like a rarity.
It’s part of human nature that when you’ve met someone new, you chat with them. As a host, I’m used to people chatting me up.
As a guest, if I had a host who was not cordial (I.e. had manners) and didn’t talk to me, I’d wonder what is wrong with them, do they have some sort of sociopathic disorder?
If you can’t be welcoming and willing to chat up your guests, you shouldn’t be doing this.
You’re being paid to let people into your home. Part of “service” is human interaction.
If you treat Airbnb like “stay away from me, I gave you an air mattress and a toilet, what more do you want?” then you’re really hurting the rest of us.
I do Airbnb as a host and a guest. The $ from hosting lets me travel and pay for being a guest.
I had a recent nightmare issue as a guest, but ZERO as a host, because I make sure that my guests are pampered. But I’m also not a $30 a night host. People pay for premium service, so maybe because I provide a better class of service and charge accordingly, I must be getting better guests.
I’m not off topic.
Calling a guest nosy/sneaky has a huge amount to do with your perceptions.
This last host I dealt with was paranoid, thought I was checking her mail, on a Sunday holiday (it was her brother), and since we are considering a permanent move, we had asked what the local job market is like, and what kind of work she does was part of that chat.
We didn’t ask how much she makes, why she is divorced, or her favorite position, but she definitely acted like we did.
That’s HER psychological problem, not ours.
My ON TOPIC statement was meant to encourage the OP to self examine.
If you feel a chat is nosy, unless they’re asking truly personal stuff, you’ve got a problem. “What kind of work do you do?” Or “are you retired?” and even “do you have kids?” Aren’t nosy.
A guest may not want to stay in a home with children, and guess what, not every HOST is forthcoming with that info.
I’ve had a host who was a part time web cam worker. She didn’t think we could hear her “customers” asking her for lewd activity.
That might have been something some people were offended by.
So knowing “I work at home as an internet stripper” is important to know.
“I’m 420 friendly” is important. As a one time federal employer and employee, I would have had to avoid those hosts. But HOSTS don’t always disclose things like that.
So, while there may be nosy guests, are you sure you’re not just secretive, misleading, or paranoid?