I appreciate you taking your time. Having someone push back forces me to defend my position and think about if it’s truly defensible.
To clarify, it’s not against my rules to have someone over. I’ve had several guests who did so. This is just the first to spend 7.5 hours overnight in the room without having paid in advance. Strictly speaking he violated this rule: Book for the correct number of people and contact me first if you have a dog traveling with you. You must pay the extra charges before checking in.
Every person who doesn’t park where I want them to, leaves lights on when they check out, and who instant books and then tells me they have a dog instead of contacting me first is also violating a house rule but I don’t give them a thumbs down.
I don’t think so. She picked him up to go out for a couple of hours and then spent the night.
So to recap: He asked for early check in and I said, “I’ll contact you if I get the room ready early” and two hours later he contacted me again by phone which I ignored. He did not park in front of my house, or come knock on the door and ask if he could just leave his luggage. He asked about the door that leads into my part of the house, the soundproofness of the walls, (maybe that’s just being considerate) and the wifi password. He didn’t bother me again until 11 am the next morning when he banged on my door repeatedly to tell me his was checking out. He walked away at 11:07 leaving everything clean and tidy. No stains on the sheet. No garbage bins overflowing with smelly takeout containers; no wine stains on the bedcover; no bugging me asking for dishes, more filtered water, help with the TV; no smudging the room or spraying cologne; no taking all the spare amenities; no using all of the $4 container of plant based creamer in one morning; no taking my water glass water bottle. In other words, I’ve had more annoying guests and I didn’t give them thumbs down.
The key to the thumbs up is that he accepted the charge quickly and without question. Had I had to wait as I have with multiple people on the pet charge or second person charge, or submit evidence due to him lying about it, it would be thumbs down.
That is speculation. He told me on arrival that a friend was coming. I could have told him right then, “hey there is an extra charge” and I’m sure he would have paid it. Had I said something and he had assured me she wouldn’t be staying overnight then we could think he was lying. It is possible that he didn’t know she would spend the night (I had that happen a few times when I was young…or maybe I imagined it? lol) or that he didn’t realize there was an extra charge. Frankly I’d rather have someone sneak in a guest that I can’t even tell was there than declare and pay for a guest and leave lots of evidence behind.
I don’t think this fellow is 100% if you know what I mean. His effusiveness in thanking me and telling me what a great host I was and how he was going to leave me a great review didn’t feel manipulative, it felt awkward. In his review of his last host he said he accidentally booked the wrong dates. When he was checking out he was talking to himself on my front porch. What we take as being pushy could be inability to read social cues.
I’ve advocated that we use the review system to weed out people who should be on the platform. I don’t think this is one of those people. Here is the review I’m posting:
Nicholas requested early check in which I was able to grant by 45 minutes. He was quiet and clean while here and paid the second guest charge when requested after I discovered he had an overnight guest. He checked out exactly at check out time leaving everything tidy and in good condition. He was friendly and appreciative of the space. My recommendation of him as a guest is conditional; make sure he has registered his guests with you in advance.