Reddit has a forum titled AITA; if you don’t already know what those letters stand for it’s “Am I the as***le?”
My situation is this: three days ago I had an inquiry from a potential guest (who is also an AirBnB host, btw) from New York City who wanted to book my standalone Victorian house that accommodates six people. She wanted to book herself and a friend for two months this summer to get out of the city. Let’s call her Amy.
Two weeks ago before I had an inquiry from a woman for the same house who wanted to book the house for herself and three other women who were coming here to do a clinical rotation at the local hospital and would be here for three months. Let’s call her Zelda.
During the last two weeks Zelda has stayed in touch with me letting me know that they were still interested and were only waiting to book until they had their starting dates for the rotation.
Amy first contacted me three days ago asking about the same house. She asked question after question, in spite of all the detailed information on the listing. She specifically asked about the cancellation policy and if she would be able to get her money back if she canceled. I told her that I would stand by my cancellation policy. I told her if she was not sure that she was coming, or sure that she wanted to come here, it would be better for her to wait and book after her plans were firm. I also told her the reason I would hold her to the cancellation policy is that I had other people considering the same house for an even longer rental and if she booked—and then canceled—it would probably lose me the other, even more lucrative, booking. So I told her I would be holding to my cancellation policy.
Well, sure enough, after three days of waffling and inquiring about my cancellation policy, and a whole lot of other questions about how far to various things and what recreational opportunities there were, etc, Amy booked yesterday morning. Mind you, I had told her I would uphold my cancellation policy. This morning I got up and Amy had sent me a message saying she wanted to cancel (only 24 hours after booking) and asking me to give her a break on my cancellation policy and refund some or all of her money, instead of the one month’s rent I would get to keep if she cancelled.
In the meanwhile, yesterday, just an hour after Amy booked, Zelda contacted me. They finally all had the starting and ending dates for their clinical rotation. She had noticed the house was booked and asked me about other options. I have another house on AirBnB. It more expensive than the other one that they wanted to book because it considerably larger and has more amenities. I have been staying there myself due to the pandemic because my husband is an essential worker and couldn’t isolate so I’ve needed to isolate from him. I worked out a deal with Zelda for that house, giving them a discount so they can afford it, which will leave me with some profit, I hope, but not a lot because having 4 people in that very large house will run up the cooling bills and other metered utilities quite a bit.
I’m furious with Amy for asking to cancel and get her money back. Her excuse is that traveling from New York City to where our Airbnb is would be “significantly more difficult and dangerous” than they had first anticipated. It’s a ridiculous excuse, IMO. It’s an 8 Hour over interstate roads all the way from there to here.
My husband’s essential work is that he is an over the road truck driver. One of the things he hauls are the plastic pellets used in making medical face shields and other PPE and medical supplies. He’s been out there since the start of this. He wears a mask and washes his hands and takes proper precautions. He has not acquired the virus. The risk of acquiring the virus simply by traveling for eight hours by car on the interstate is demonstratively minimal if they take any kind of precautions.
I feel Amy has been jerking me around and causing me a lot of problems and taking up a lot of my time dealing with her inquiries. Then she wants to cancel and wants a refund after I have specifically told her I wouldn’t do that.
Amy thinks I should just contact the other guests and see if they will take the Victorian house and then she wants her money back. I’ve already spent a number of hours dealing with Amy‘s questions. Plus I spent almost an entire day yesterday trying to work out a plan for the four women in Zelda‘s party so that they could be accommodated. I’m super annoyed that Amy did this. Maybe Zelda’s party will agree to take the Victorian house. But they may prefer to stick with the booking they already have. Plus if I go switching the reservation for Zelda’s party, it’s going to cause me a lot of work on the Airbnb platform and we all know what a pain that is these days.
So, AITA here for refusing to give Amy a refund in violation of my own cancellation policy? Especially after I warned her I would stick with it and especially since if I did give her a refund it’s going to cause me a considerable amount of trouble to rebook the other party? Even assuming Zelda’s party consents to being rebooked… If they don’t consent to being rebooked I will really lose out because the profit margin on the Victorian house is much greater, especially because I gave Zelda’s party a discount on the other house just so I could accommodate them. I feel at this point, asking Zelda’s party to switch makes me look like a flake.
Also, it’s extremely unlikely I’ll pick up a booking to replace Amy’s booking. These two bookings are the first we’ve had this year except for one that started before the virus took off and lasted to mid April. Our listing are entire houses, not simply a room in our house. We incur considerable expense when when the houses are not occupied.
Also anyone have any suggestions on how I word “no” to Amy so she quits coming back and asking for the refund? I’ve already told her no once. She just keeps coming back with more suggestions and pleas for getting her money back.