I know, right? The thing that stood out for me from the list of complaints was that the OP kept replenishing the consumable amenities, like it was a hotel. Who does that?! It would seriously affect my bottom line.
I promote the self-catering aspect of renting my unit. Guests are informed that they are provided with an initial supply of essentials and, though limited, is usually adequate for their stay. I do not offer refills and it must be clear to guests because they never request more.
If a guest used the supply of wood that was provided, and it was for his own room and enjoyment, purchasing additional wood is on him. A guest telling me he drinks 5 cups of coffee per day would not affect my leaving the allotted 2 cups of coffee per day in the canister.
If the guest requested more of the chocolates he received on arrival, I would have expressed my pleasure that he enjoyed the “welcome-guest” treat and told him the name of the store where he could purchase a supply of the very same chocolates.
If I allowed a guest to have a friend over for visit and the guest then had a subsequent guest on another day, I would inform him that he must entertain his guests elsewhere, off-property.
Every host develops a personal set-point of how much leeway a guest can have and it often comes from experience.