First thing my mom taught me as a new mom was nap time should have normal noise levels. You don’t want to confuse day and night. Normal light in the room, normal noise levels, etc. I have 4 kids. I’m not super-mom by ANY means. My life revolves around my kids as necessity arises as I love my kids, etc, but I am not going to quiet the whole house or let my life be ruled by naps or I would lose my mind.
I have friends that their lives are ruled by the nap schedule. They won’t stay anywhere past 7:30PM. They put notes on the front door about no ringing the bell, etc. Yes, at certain stages in my life I’ve had short periods where I had to do all of these things, but it was for weeks at a time, not years.
And the biggest thing that drives me bonkers is that there’s no personal responsibility! If you want quiet, odd check-in/out, etc, then you pay the price. Don’t expect others to bend over backwards and change their lives/schedules because you’ve raised your kids to be so sensitive to anything abnormal as mowing the lawn in the afternoon or naps being in the car or 30 minutes late occasionally. I would lose my mind if my kids truly ruled my life like I see so many parents dealing with. No wonder people only have 1 kid, because they’re too scared to have more because of how difficult they’ve made it on themselves!
Now of course there are rare circumstances that affect those things, allergies, health, certain life-stages, etc. But there are too many normal kids that are being set up for failure in life because the whole world revolves around them.
I would put them in their rooms anyway and they would both climb our of their cribs and wait by the baby gate at the door calling for me. Ahh the memories.