Hey @SpokaneFiveStar,
Although we sync rates and availability with HomeAway/VRBO in addition to iCal sync, we do not control the content (your listing) at the moment. Therefore I believe VRBO customer support should solve this issue as it seems like it is a glitch on their end. Showing per-friendly on a page and then showing an opposite alert is strange. 
We added some more tax/fee types in the last version and we are working on optional fees and extra services at the moment. I will keep you updated.