konacoconutz, you are RIGHT - I agree - in fact I was also feeling guilty because he had asked me to go to dinner with him and I declined - and now I think, had I gone - we would have been back RIGHT AFTER DINNER. I can’t beat myself up over this - but I do have a soft spot for troubled people. I hope he goes to AA and gets his life straightened out. He’s 42, has 2 grown sons.
Be aware, this didn’t usually happen in a vacuum… it’s probably been building up for a while… Conscientious people don’t drink and drive.
Oh mygosh… certainly not your fault that you didn’t go out with him. It would have happened on its own sooner or later.
Just today I got an inquiry through HomeAway from a woman, 6 adults for 2 nights a couple of weeks from now. The entire text of inquiry; "Availability??? Thx!!! ". On Homeaway you get the full name, phone number (if they enter it- and she did) and email address so things sometimes pop up when you start googling…
Street address √
other family members’ names √
arrest record for credit card fraud… √√√
My policy is to use an actual contract that has to be signed, scanned and sent back to me with a copy of their ID. Name and address on the contract, ID and credit card has to match. In other words I will not be hearing back from her.
I wouldn’t have had a clue how to do this, how did you even think of it? Is it a Florida thing? I’m in NYC, this wouldn’t make the gossip column.
Makes for a good host story, for sure, but you’re right in further comments that it is just sad when you know all the details. Its not like the guy is some douchebag college frat boy, but someone who may have just lost their livelihood. I hope he gets it together.
it depends on county to county - I live in Martin County, Florida and they post all arrests and bookings - it’s all public information. If you google your county and arrest records - it should come up! Also here, if you think someone is in jail, you can call the jail and ask if John Smith is in jail, and they will tell you if he is.
Yes, CatskillsGrrl, it really is very sad - the guy was very nice and thoughtful and even mowed my lawn yesterday. He was here for 8 days and I could see his drinking patterns - I knew he had a problem. I hope he gets it together too! So sad!
I guess if you are feeling really sorry for him, and he mowed your lawn - you could wash all his dirty clothes before you box them all up. It won’t bring back his job, or reverse the DUI, but he would appreciate it
Yes, agreed - I’m going to wash and fold his clothes and pack everything up nicely for him.
See if you can gently suggest AA. He needs it. Before he kills someone innocent or himself.
What an absolute bummer is having a drinking problem, changes lives. This guy sounds like a cool guy otherwise.
“Shared with you?” could be a perfectly innocent question. In my experience shared with the host is not the same as shared with other guests (this is a hygiene matter)
If the guest was arrested for driving under the influence; Alcoholics Anonymous will have been suggested, not gently, by a judge.
Court ordered rehab might be. He must have been really tanked to get held like that with no bail until the hearing?
One of our neighbors was arrested for DUI. It was a checkpoint on Super Bowl weekend. There was no accident. He was required to go to classes about drinking and driving. Also, for a year he had to have a breathalyzer on his car. He had to pay for the breathalyzer and it was very expensive.
Cinderelle; You’re just on the wrong Florida coast. The East coast is where most of the wackos hang out. Here on the West coast we’re more laid back and less uptight!
I don’t think it matters who the bathroom is shared with! It’s shared with 3 rooms and that’s what he needs to know! He’s obviously a creep if he asked me for recommendations of local escorts.
Wow. That’s pretty appalling. Definitely a bad guest. But what shocks me more than the fact that he got tanked and drove and then left after damaging property is the fact that you can access a Sheriff’s website or blog and find out details of someone’s crime including their name. Innocent until proven guilty - but publicly exposed nonetheless. In Australia, you could access a website that would tell you there was an accident and that someone was arrested, but you wouldn’t have access to their name. I’m assuming as you say Sheriff that you’re in the US?
I have an uneasy feeling about your rights or even the moral ground of entering the room and packing up his stuff. Washing his clothes could be considered a nice gesture, but I would imagine some people would find it an incredible invasion of privacy. I would not move his stuff until he’d already not turned up to check out or contacted you to let you know his situation. I think it could reflect very poorly on you even though he’s done the wrong thing.
I think the check out is the day he is released and if he’s longer than that she does have the right I would say to enter the room, especially if she has new guests coming. If the guy is as nice as she says, he surely won’t mind. He has bigger fish to fry than an Airbnb host packing up his room.
I believe in the US, arrest records are public. This is why we saw Hugh Grant’s mugshot all over the place after the famous “what were you thinking” escort incident.