Hmm, I don’t charge a cleaning fee (we do the cleaning ourselves) but maybe I should start - it would be a nice little extra! Most of our guests leave the place super-tidy (especially the French, @Rsv, that was probably your problem!) and most wash the dishes, but I’m not particularly fazed if they don’t, though I might moan a bit to the Husband. I certainly wouldn’t write a nasty review on the strength of it. In fact since the apartment doesn’t have a dishwasher it rather does me a favour since I can take the dishes upstairs to our machine and make sure they’re really clean! As posters above have said, it takes almost as long to clean a “clean and tidy” listing as a messy one.
All our guests leave food in the fridge (not usually cooked dishes but opened - or unopened - packets and cans). They are all going to catch planes, so their only alternative is to throw it away, which seems a huge waste to me when some is perfectly good. They leave fruit, vegetables, cheese, youghurts, wine etc. These used to be an extra for my cleaning lady (and yes, in spain I’ve never encountered a cleaning man) but now we do the cleaning we share anything useful with our Nigerian friend who helps in the garden.
Having said all this, when I’m a guest I always leave the place spotless, to the extent that the Husband worries that we’re going to miss the plane! I like to do it because I’m a neat freak, but I don’t expect my guests to do this and I don’t look on it as not “respecting my home”. In fact I think the words “respect” and its opposite are overused nowadays … but that’s just the old biddy in me talking!