Ah yes, the new “friend” with sick husband that I invited for a few days and who wanted to stay for two weeks … completely my fault for not being clear and when I took the advice of this forum and asked her (nicely) to pay, they were happy to do so and it all worked out fine in the end.
It’s taught me though to be careful about saying to sundry people “oh, do come and stay in our lovely place” without making it very clear what basis it’s on. It’s easier for us as our season is only May-September so family and friends can come outside that time. The children and grandchildren have absolute priority but I do ask them to try to decide early in the year when they want to come so I can block that time on the calendar.
This year as it was a big birthday for me I invited a small group of my contemporaries from school and University for a 3-day reunion. All of them offered to pay but I didn’t want them to, so when they arrived they literally confiscated my wallet and we were not allowed to pay for a single item of food, drink or entertainment while they were here - now that’s what I call friends!