Hello! Does anyone think this is odd? I currently have 2 x 23yo girls living in our downstairs bedroom for 23 nights. We have a 2yo son and I just naturally assumed that girls of this age would be going out on a Saturday night so I booked a babysitter for our son so we could go to a birthday party. These girls have been with us 12 nights and not once have they gone out! They go out during the day sometimes for a couple of hours but spend the rest of their time in their room - even though we’ve told them they are more than welcome to hang out in the living room. They refuse anything we offer them - I once offered them a roast dinner as I was cooking, also a bacon sandwich one morning, husband has offered them a beer etc, they refuse everything with just a ‘no thank you’. Anyway, they said they didn’t mind that I had hired a babysitter, but since the babysitter came last weekend they spend even more and more time in the their room. I feel like asking them if they are happy and comfortable but I don’t know how… it’s the first time I’ve hosted in my own home while I am there, not sure if this is all normal or not. What do you guys think?
Thanks
Sounds like they found an expensive place to live and they don’t have money for going out. They either don’t want to impose or just aren’t very social. Not knowing them personally it’s hard to say much more.
How much longer is their booking?
They’ve done pretty well, they’ve got a nice big room with walk in wardrobe and double ensuite for less than it would cost them to stay at a hostel. I dont mind that they don’t want to go out, they’ve been travelling for a year and are just staying here until they fly back home but I just don’t know how to broach the subject of asking hem if they are happy here without making it sound like I want them to eat my bacon and sit in the living room with us 
I didn’t mean to say “expensive place to live.” LOL. I meant inexpensive and thought maybe they don’t have money to go out. Now you say they are just killing time after traveling for a year so maybe they are…out of money as I said. Or tired. In any case it doesn’t really sound like you have a problem.
How much longer is their booking?
I was just thinking they were real dags but your ideas seem more plausible! In my day I went out when I had no money all the time, usually in the sexiest outfit I could find with the express intention of getting men to buy my drinks all night- usually worked. Is that not cool anymore?
They are staying another 10 days. All they seem to eat is carrots and porridge but they’ve refused everything I’ve offered them.
I put a tv and some dvds in their room and I think they Skype home a lot. I guess it’s just the opposite to what I’d be doing so I find it confusing but I suppose you shouldn’t judge people by your own standards 
maybe they are just not sociable types.
@emily haha
I have had similar guests and I think, as others said, they are tired at the end of their travels and they’ve run out of money. Honestly, you should be happy that they are not bothering you and hanging out constantly in your shared areas! That gets annoying really quickly. Maybe I am jaded (actually, the ‘maybe’ isn’t needed lol) but the more you host, the more you enjoy those guests that are out all of the time. Believe me. Just let your guests be. You’ve made every effort to engage with them, don’t stray into harrassment territory!!
Can they just be tired of traveling and just want to chill? And they’re just comfortable? And yes it sucks when your guests don’t want to leave and explore the city which is the reason I have in my description I need you to be out and about and not stay in the house since I work from home.
As somebody who has also spent extended periods of time travelling I always used to book a place at the end of my trip to relax and wind down before returning to the ‘real world’. When you finish a long trip ‘coming home’ often means getting straight into a new job, looking for a new place to live, rebuilding social circles etc. It can be a huge shock to the system so those last few weeks to really just do nothing at all can be much needed.
I think you’re doing your best by offering them these things and going out of your way to make them feel welcome, I wouldn’t read much more into it
Some people are shy and don’t want to impose. Maybe try leaving out some snacks for them.
Yes good idea! Porridge and carrots must be getting grim!!! At least their fiber and vitamin C levels will be ok! My flat mate and I once blew all our dough on cocktails and had to endure soy sauce and rice for a week. Another time I had only Weetbix for a week (oscillating between butter and vegemite on them for lunch and dinner and with milk for breakfast). We then had to use the cardboard box for loo paper. Whenever I feel poor as I sip on my Sav Blanc I remember these grim student/working in retail days.