I wanted to post an update on this situation- Immediately demanded refrigerator space over and beyond the mini fridge in room.
It was really weird when he asked the first morning if he could taste my breakfast”!
H refused to leave key in lockbox, took it with him. I specify not to do so in my house rules.
He asked me to move a minute while he made a sandwich on my cutting board. I let him, 25 minutes later he had the whole cutting board covered (all 4 feet of it!). I finally told him I needed him to move. He left his bread and a ton of crumbs all over the board and my stuff that was laying there.
Repeatedly coming the in to the house with his shoes on, I spoke to him FIVE times about it. I kept moving his shoes to his bedroom as he continued to leave up to 4 pairs spread all over in front of the door. I tripped over his shoes that were left in front of my desk! This occurred over and over, along with him tracking in all kind of dirt. I had to remove a white rug from his room and wash it, when I put it back and once more asked him to not walk in the house with his shoes on, I once more found the rug dirty with leaves and dirt all over it.
When I lost it and told him I was fed up, he told me he didn’t “believe” me when I said his hard and very loud, dress shoes would harm my very old, restored wooden floors. I reminded him he had agreed to do so when he booked!
Sam asked for a discount when asking to rebook.
Sam monopolized the bathroom for over an hour each morning. When I finally one morning, after being up for 45 minutes, asked to use the bathroom. He refused, saying he was just getting in the shower! This was after the water in the bath had been running for most of the time he was in there!
Halfway through Sam’s stay I tripped and sprained my ankle. After we spoke for the 4th time about the show situation, he came in from work and stuck his head in the door and asked me to walk to the door (on crutches!) and throw his trash way. He commented that he had no way to throw it away himself because I was insisting he take his shoes off!
His VERY load, yelling even, on phone every evening got ridiculous. It went on until 11 to 11:45 each evening. When I asked for it to stop he had a long excuse about how his girlfriend was mad at him, and he would “try” to make sure it didn’t happen again. It did. His excuse this time? He had to yell to be heard over the phone when speaking to his mother in India.
Even when I showed him where the Airbnb guest parking was, I had to get him to move his vehicle out of my tenant’s parking space.
On the morning we finally really had it out about the shoes (4th talk!), he said ok, no problem. He then promptly left his dirty socks and tennis shoes in from of my desk. He continued to walk around the house with hard shoes on, then left. I asked him about all that when he got in from work, he told me he was very confused about where to leave his shoes. I reiterated; in your room, with ONE pair of flip flops by the door. I also told him I did not understand since he has having trouble with leaving his shoes all over, forcing me to move or walk around them…why he did not use the separate entrance I had pointed out to him. I asked going forward that he do so.
He has told me he really liked it here, felt welcome and at home. I saw that the room needed a table to make it easier for guests to manage food prep, he was very grateful. Claims he will leave me a great review, has rebooked 3 times now, extending his stay.
But after the conversation this morning he is being sullen, non-communicative. He leaves at 11:00 tomorrow!!
I realize now that at the first request for special treatment I needed to put my foot down. It’s hard, you want to be accommodating, but house rules are house rules. It’s strange, Sam can be funny, charming…and we’ve had a good time except for his refusal to be respectful and follow the house rules.