Susan, you need to set limits here and fast. I have a self-contained unit that I am, this very week, lending out for free. However, this young woman is very close to me and she even offered to pay. She and her boyfriend just had a baby. They took jobs in a remote outpost in Canada for the high pay–they both have huge student loans and this young woman’s mother has pretty much rejected her, her boyfriend and their baby. It’s very sad.
The point is, I offered and I’m happy they’re coming because she’s a great person.
You need to find a diplomatic way to say no. How about we’re having the place fumigated that week, then, oh we’re having it painted that week, then, oh we’re having the floor done that week. Gosh, you have no idea of the wear and tear this place is taking with all these guests coming through!
I know these are white lies, but I also know how hard it can be to turn friends away without hurting their feelings. The thing is, after getting enough of these excuses, they’ll stop asking. So even if they check your calendar, you can have a list of excuses ready. (If they show up and wonder what happened, you can just say your plans fell through, contractors being as hard to find as they are.)
I hired a cleaning lady who used to check my calendar too. I hated it. She would phone me the night before, telling me I obviously needed the place cleaned the next day. The thing is, she was a great cleaner and I hated letting her go, but I felt I was losing control of my own business! She would say things like ‘We won’t be eating much this week’ etc., and I’m a softy so I would tell her, ‘Yes, please come,’ when the fact was, I could just as easily have done the work myself (I only hired her for those times I couldn’t).
We’re BUSINESS people, not fundraisers, so get clear on the money aspect of what you’re doing. White lies aren’t for everyone, but they’ve saved my behind on those occasions when I knew–just knew–I was going to cave.