I put in my money and I usually put in all the work which me only i should benefit but like the good wife I am i just put it towards rent and bills -_____-
@hypertokyo --just curious, did your partner have a short fuse before you decided to be with him? Takes time sometime to really get to know someoneā¦suggest you do this (take time) BEFORE you commit to anyoneā¦(talking from experience!) List the qualities you want in a partner, then go find them.
@Elaine ā save 10% (for rainy days or your divorce) then share the rest of the earnings 50-50. You earned it.
I run the ABB business, and hubby works a traditional job. we both get the alerts on our mobiles, which I had to tell him to stop telling me about, bc I get them too. Now he just likes to know the flats are getting booked. He sometime trys to help turn a property with me, and that usually results in snappy words, bc he is either moving too slow or has tried to reinvent the wheel in regards to some way I typically do things.
On the whole itās been good for us. When youāre retired and youāve been married a squillion years things can get a little ā¦ boring (no, really?) When we were doing straight B&B he dealt with bookings but I did most of the planning and day-to-day work. The Airbnb is more of a project for both of us and gives us an interest to talk about (though, like @azreala I do get annoyed when he tells me about a booking that I already know about!)
And he LOVES hearing about the dilemmas and problems we talk about here - though i have absolutely banned him from joining!
Yes, a favorite exchange in our marriage
āYouāre not doing it right!!ā
āNo, Iām just not doing it your wayā
pause
āLike I said! Youāre not doing it right!ā
My husband is a chatter box as we say in Ireland and will spend forever talking to guests, the only ones that escape are ones with little English, but he will give it a go, he is so patient. If we want him we have to ring him from upstairs to get his attention.
Yes. Yes it does. As noted in my active thread above. Husband and I have been back and forth about this all day.
Gives us something to complain about jointly, at least!
Funny, my husband and I were talking about this on our way to our nieceās birthday party and until that point it was only good things for our marriage and my husband was happy that I had a way to have an outlet and a way to earn some money (which is hard as a stay at home mom, very valuable job but you sometimes want to earn too).
And then a blow-up at the party with my sister about how she was hurt that we didnāt ask the family before turning the family home (actually the apartment above the garage) into a hotel and renting to who knows what and if they move out of town now they either have to get a hotel or stay in a mattress where who knows what happened (huh, same thing except you get the reassurance that your sister cleaned it for youā¦), and theyāre just hurt that I donāt have more consideration for my siblings in the decisions Iāve been making in the family home.
Huh, no, I bought it, itās my home, I bought it despite reservations of siblings second guessing and having an opinion about everything. I have to find a way to make it affordable and pay for this monstrosity. Sorry, I thought I got my venting out on the other thread I started: http://www.airhostsforum.com/t/why-does-my-sister-think-she-has-a-say-in-my-running-an-air/7512/1
Sarah, it is a very helpful with ANY conflict (or with any argument) to stop a second and address from the outset a wrongful or questionable premise. People pull this trick all the time. The above is the first one in your case. It is NOT āthe family homeā, as you stated and know. It was once, it is no longer. What that means is: it is none of her business what YOU do with the home now. By extension, ~her opinion~ is also now none of your business.
Of course, you can say this as sweetly, diplomatically or blunt as you like, depending with what is needed - to get that point across. Soā¦
- It is no longer āthe family homeā.
- Her opinion is none of your business
You establish those facts, end of āproblemsā, once it gets through her skull.
So I get to read the story a second time and get annoyed a second time. So manipulative! Sheās hurt because they canāt do what you are doing. She wants you to forego all that income so that she doesnāt have to stay with her own parents when she comes to town. What a selfish dolt.
and yet, she hasnāt even left town. She just might, someday.
I had to snap on mine for leaving a bad review about a guest when I didnt want to review a guest at all in turn i changed my password on the account so he no longer has control of that
Woah! Lol! That is quite the situationā¦
When they donāt put the issue down they really have an agenda. Itās the Airbnb game and you are it. They want a cut. And once they get a cut they want the whole thing. They donāt want to work at all and expect you to work and give them the money. It must be a fantasy or dream of theirs to have a family dispute. It turns into drama about thinking you have money when you just spent all you had on supplies and gas. But Iām just channeling my inner sisterās.
Mine tells me I have to stop obsessing about reviews and heās sick of talking about Airbnb!
He sighs when that Airbnb āchimeā comes through and after the Australian Christmas and summer holiday period so do I!