This is a 95 year old “manor style” 3 story house on 2 acres with a guest-house above the garage. My parents bought it 25 years ago.
A few years ago my dad approached us and asked if we’d want to co-own the property with him and he’d build a 3 bedroom ranch on the property. After realizing the fiasco that would be if they passed and the property would be owned my me and my 4 siblings, and all the contracts and hurt feelings, etc, we said no way.
No one else was interested in doing that with them either, no one but me and my baby brother (single and in college at the time) had any interest in the house. My dad has struggle keeping up with this place, and my husband and I are very handy, have rehabbed houses before and we have 4 kids…perfect situation.
Meanwhile, my brother who wanted to buy the house and may buy it from us somewhere down the line when we’re ready to downsize has second guessed our paint choices, etc.
It comes down to it’s my home. I’m keeping the same feel as my parents did where anyone can come and swim, I love to host family gatherings and having all the nieces and nephews together to play. But we already have made different decisions than the rest of the family. I’ve gotten exhausted being second guessed with other decisions, but to have the audacity to voice hurt feelings about decisions I’ve made with the house I bought and scramble and work hard to maintain and afford is ridiculous. What if I hadn’t been willing to buy it and complete strangers bought it? Do I get to have hurt feelings at other houses I grew up in now have a tree cut down or whatever?
It really comes down to the fact that I’m not keeping it limited to people I know or I know are married. She’s mad that I’m willing to profit over unmarried people staying up there. Funny thing is, the whole thing blew up after me talking about how amazing it was to be on a forum with other Air hosts and we had a civil debate regarding the “would you mention your faith in your listing” thread. And then she said that she can’t believe I’m willing to let unmarried people I don’t know rent the place, and I’m so hurt that you didn’t consider our feelings over what you’ve done to our family home, turning it into a hotel…