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Although I’d be fine with guests bringing and supplying their own coffee, I don’t want them to think they have to. Like most reviews with something that is inaccurate, this one does have the helpful information about Corner Bakery being enroute to the interstate. There’s also a Dutch Bros Coffee, Dunkin Donuts, Carls Jr., Jack in the Box, Wendy’s, Burger King and McDonald’s all one one of three possible routes between my rental and the interstate that is less than a mile away.
It’s one thing for guests not to read, another for them not to see what is right in front of their eyes. And mention it in the review, no less.
Sometimes I think people just don’t see what they aren’t used to seeing. If you don’t have the same kind of coffeemaker they have at home, they don’t see yours, it doesn’t register. And some people are just lazy lookers. A friend stayed with me and asked if I had seen her bathing suit. She had torn everything apart in her room looking for it and considered it some huge mystery. I saw it hung over the balcony rail, right outside her room, where she had put it to dry, in plain sight.
I can kind of see how someone might overlook the little rack/shelf on the wall. I don’t understand why someone wouldn’t message and say “hey, do you have any k-cups for the keurig?” There’s coffee cups, sweetner, stir sticks, creamer in the fridge…why the eff don’t you ask me? Oh well, it happens to all of us. It just happens so rarely to me that it seems worthy of a post, LOL. I don’t want folks to think everything is unicorns and rainbows over here.
The way people “remember” things is so often tainted by their own feelings at the time.
My middle daughter quit high school in the middle of 11th grade. No matter how I tried to convince her to finish (You’ve stuck it out for 10 and a half years- another year and a half doesn’t seem that difficult), she was adamant about not going to school anymore. What I told her at the time was that if she quit school, she couldn’t just spend her days sitting around looking at magazines and going to second-hand stores (two of her favorite activities, although she was also very creative, always making things, sewing, etc.), that I would expect her to get at least some part-time work, help out with more of the housework, etc. What she ended up doing was moving to an island not far from us, where we had a lot of close friends, and doing some odd jobs for people, as well as apprenticing with a carpenter.
But what she “remembered” is that I “kicked her out of the house”, when I most certainly did no such thing. Nor was I ever angry with her about dropping out, I just hoped, at the time, that she wouldn’t.
There was a movie whose name I cannot remember set in a law school classroom where the law professor had a staged crime in the middle of the class. I don’t recall exactly what it was but quickly the professor let everyone know it was staged and then asked what happened.
Well, there were many versions and disagreements on what they all had seen.
So there’s just cognitive errors that happen. Add in that it was dark or you yourself were frightened by the event or physical factors that would impair your ability to observe. Now add in biases, unconscious or otherwise, and innocent people go to jail, or as you point out, are executed.
I’m constantly amazed on how in social life situations people will say they ‘know’ what another person was up to. Now, they might suspect, it might be likely that they are correct in reading a situation and what another person is up to, but it’s important to hold in your mind that you don’t ‘know’ it even if you are very likely correct.
What’s more, even if you are correct in sizing up a situation, the other person you’re sizing up might themselves not be self aware, might have some cognitive, developmental, cultural or other conditions you’re not attuned to. So your assessment of their motivations or intentions can easily be way off.
I had a guest not see an AC unit and spend a month in our homeshare room with just the ceiling fan going. They never spoke up, but were amazed on the last day when I mentioned that I was glad they had the AC unit since it had been an unusually hot month. They didn’t mention it in the review. They were from a country with lots of hot weather so that probably helped.
Feels slightly aggressive, and even though it 100% may be the truth, the fact that the otherwise super-happy guest mentions that there were no cups makes it seem like an annoyed lie that there presumably were cups all over the place right infront of their eyes. Lucy won’t read your comment, just your future prospective guests who may get the impression you’re a liar, even though you may have been 100% in the right.
But it should be pointed out that for someone with only a few reviews such response may well be detrimental and reflect negatively back on them, no matter whether they actually were in the right or not.