It never helps to be a softy. Helpful one thing but a push over is never good.
I have no problem in stopping or preventing people from doing certain things they are not supposed to do as guests. The difference between me now and me then 2 years ago that now i dont get angry at my guests any more. And just tell them calmly and with a smile how I do it and give them no choice of demanding things from me that i am not comfortable with.
I just had a guest who did not read my rules at all. He stays for week and first thing he did he went to the kitchen and started to takeout packages of meat to cook. Thats the conversation:
Me: you did not read my rules, did you?
Guest: Not really, it was kind of last minute booking
Me: Vegeterian cooking only and in general very little use of stove. You can eat and warm up non vegeterian foods.
Guest: O wow, its really strict. So… what am i supposed to do with all this meat?
Me: there is a park across the street, you can grill there. I can give you foil:joy:
Guest: o wow, so …everytime i have to cook i have to make grill?
Me: Pretty much (wide smile)
Guest (kind of upset): hmm… ok, i guess i have to work around that.
Me: would you be more comfortable to cancel your stay? I am willing to work with you on refund if you wish. (I had already a guest from other source who was anxious on taking the room, otherwise i would not offer the refund:)
Guest: No, no, i guess its my fault that i did not read rules. This is my second Airbnb and i could cook in first so i kind of assumed that its allowed everywhere. I can work with that, no worries
Me: ok, great. Thanks
His week is coming to an end. He seems happy with going to beautiful park to cook every day and i am happy with my clean kitchen:)