Hey everyone! This is a combination “new host” and “newbie did I handle this correctly/how to handle for the duration of the stay” type question.
My place is a lovely 2 br/2ba apartment in Washington, DC - I live in the apartment and have the second bedroom and bathroom up on Air. The bedroom is the guest’s alone, and the bath is 85% the guest’s - I keep cleaning supplies etc in the guest bathroom so I do have to go in semi-regularly to grab things. Current ‘rules’ are that the fridge, cabinet, microwave, toaster, and hot water maker are available for short term guests (long-term guests can use the stove etc too). The second bedroom is cozy but nice, and I’m literally steps from some of the best restaurants, bars, and entertainment in the city, and an easy bus/bike/metro/taxi/walk to all of the sights of DC.
And now for the “DId I do this right” portion of the post:
On Thursday midday I got my very first AirBnB potential guest message - someone saying his other Air reservation had been cancelled so he was reserving for the next night. All well and good - though in hindsight I wish I knew why the cancellation so close to a reservation. I confirmed his travel dates, checked that he had reviews (4, all positive - that he was a good guest, friendly, quiet etc). Went ahead and booked him. He had a “pending payment” notification, which I mentioned to him and he fixed.
That night, I got a few weird messages from him - I figured it was just his attempt to be friendly, answered the first one in a nondescript, professional way and ignored the others.
Next day, check-in time. Give him the keys, show him around, He tries to offer to cook, which I very specifically declined (see above RE short-term guests and using the kitchen). He was a little pushy about it, but I just declined again. There were a few other odd comments, but nothing alarming - just strange. I figure some people are strange, meeting them is part of the joy of Air, and move on.
That night, a friend is over and we’re watching TV. He returns for the evening and asks if he could join us, and we said “of course”. In some side conversation about the show, my friend mentions that she works with veterans for the military and has family who served. He got very heated and verbally aggressive, beginning to insult what her family did and her own work - two things she takes an immense amount of pride in. At that point I said it might be best if he spent his evening in his space rather than with us. He (angrily) agreed and stormed off to his room.
Did I handle this OK? Anything I should do for the rest of his stay (4 more nights) to mitigate things? What do you do when an Air guest is being rude to a friend (or yourself?) Of course everyone has different opinions and thoughts - but there are ways to express those views without attacking the other people. The Air guest is paying and I want to be a good host - but my friend is also my guest and deserves the same consideration. If the shoe had been on the other foot and she’d been rude to him, I would have asked her to leave, or at least moved our conversation somewhere else so he could enjoy his evening.
I’m guessing I’ll get dinged somewhere in the review. I’m honestly surprised that nothing was mentioned in his guest reviews! Do hosts basically do ‘good review unless something is noisy or messy’ or…?
TLDR; What should one do when an AirBnB guest is rude/insulting/verging on verbally aggressive towards a friend? Is it appropriate to ask them to vacate common space for a while? Should I be contacting AirBnB (I’m guessing it will be mentioned in the review etc) or let it go as misunderstandings between folks that just happen? Should I mention it in the guest review?
THANKS! And side note, reading this board is one of the things that got me to take this plunge into hosting - knowing there were people around to ask these kinds of questions!