Please tell us more.
I didn’t want to lazily ask you. So I Googled it and one of the distinctions I copy below:
The main difference between tolerance and acceptance is that acceptance indicates a greater sense of reception and freedom for others to be themselves.
“Tolerance and acceptance are two qualities needed for a diverse society. Most people assume that tolerance and acceptance mean the same, but they are not synonyms. Tolerance is your ability or willingness to endure the existence of opinions or behaviour you dislike or disagree with. Acceptance, on the other hand, is assenting and embracing someone or something you don’t like, without protesting and without trying to change them.”
So, the difference between tolerance and acceptance seems to me a matter of degree, though of so many degrees as to become a qualitative difference. If tolerance is 50%, acceptance is 100%; or to keep the degree metaphor if tolerance is 50 degrees, acceptance is absolute zero (I don’t think that metaphor works well here).
I’ve read here that while some of us don’t like when guests ask for a discount or an early check-in we should be, in effect, be tolerant that such negotiating might be common in their culture. Or, even if not, we ‘should’ be tolerant of those negotiating for a better deal/terms so long as it is pre-reservation.
Tolerance also seems to me to include empathy for the inexperienced traveller, the inexperienced STR guest, the dyslexic, the non-readers or less than careful readers, maybe even the forgetful, those asking not as much to seek answers as to seek human connection.
I suppose that tolerance might sometimes be somewhat grudging, that acceptance goes much farther, goes without any grudge or any judgment at all.
I suppose as people ‘acceptance’ is the gold standard, what many of us aspire to (or feel we ‘should’), though ‘freedom to be yourself’ I wouldn’t think to include [fill in the blanks].
It’s in filling in the blanks where the rubber meets the road. We’d all agree that freedom to be yourself doesn’t include criminal behavior. But for some of us it might also mean ‘not asking a question answered in the listing or house manual’ and on and on.
Patience and tolerance seem doable first steps, with true acceptance for me aspirational and also a little hard to define.
Maybe patience and tolerance – ultimately acceptance – are ‘the answers’.
Is that the more precise formulation you’re suggesting?