Thats not my theory. But people tend to think so.
I did not notice through my life that women who are vey pretty get ahead carreer wise or success in work place because of their appearance.
In getting rich guys, yes. With Airbnb why would guys rent from a pretty woman vs not that attractive. What is the adgenda here, to get sex? Thats just very silly and not realistic. What are the odds anyway of succeeding.
This guy was an ahole and really pushed boundaries. But to characterize an attempted kiss (that someone apologizes for and then immediately retreats from) a âsexual assaultâ is a complete negation of female agency (we are only defined as victims or as potential victims of male sexual assault). I know the OP didnât call this a sexual assault and it sucks she had to deal with a situation that made her uncomfortable. But for others to characterize this as sexual assault is problematic.
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He made a pass. You rebuffed him and he accepted the rebuff without drama. He left; heâs gone; youâve learned a few things about being careful what kinds of signals you send and what interpretations you enable. And he needs to be banned from Air because âŚbecause ⌠because why?
And if this man made a pass at your teenage daughter while you were at the storeâŚI guess you would have the same response. Of course not. You are an idiot.
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Men are usually very dumb when it comes to so called âsignalsâ, or they pretend to be dumb. I go out with my friends, and this is what happens. A guy stares, and stares for a long time, i turn my head from him, i yawn into his face, i say no to dance, i hardly smile, i refuse a drink. At the end of the night he asks for my phone number.
So what signals i send to himâŚ
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Yana, you are obviously irresistible because you areâŚmysterious!
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hehehe, why am i mysterious?
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YanaâŚyou make me laugh so hard.
I wonder what the guy would do if you yawned âawayâ from his face. Oh dearâŚhe might just get a hard on. I just want to smack some of these idiots in the head. Shaking my headâŚ
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I have no clue what you look like or your age but I figure you are blond, trim, exude an inner confidenceâŚand when you turn your head, itâs coy, almost teasing, whether you intend it or not. Am I right? You do keep your eye on him periodically. If he asks you to dance or offers you a drink, your response allows him to hear that you have an accentâŚ
All of that is intriguing to the male species on the prowl.
Yana, it is the power of the least interested. Or, itâs the Ukrainian accent. Drives men wild! 
@cabinhost Did i say it wrong âinto his faceâ?
@konacoconutz, i dont know if its an accent, here in South Florida everyone has some kind of an accent:)
@SandyToes. I am so not blond:joy:. I have red hair. May be i do look back but only because of annoying looks. Guys hit on everyone, especially if its in a late night place, may be someone will say yes. Sorry guys on this forum, i am sure you are different:joy:
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you should have not been leading him on or acting skanky !!
Thatâs it. Admit it Yana you are âSimply Irresistibleâ'. 
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I feel for you! He was awful. Itâs a bit of âbad programmingâ in us women that we react slowly or only afterwards, and the bad feeling gets stronger when itâs too late and the moment to strike back has passed. I think itâs part upbringing to try to be nice but also the surprise element, as in it takes time for the brain to catch up with whatâs happening if itâs really unexpected. Another thing is that it might be safer to be nice, rather than find out the hard way what happens if you reject someone bluntly.
As for blaming the victim, I think there is confusion about it because itâs a case of âthe insurance brokerâ versus âthe judgeâ. The insurance broker says, âLock your house, donât go out at night; you have to protect yourself and your stuff, blame yourself if it goes badâ. The judge says the criminal is to blame. Some people arenât aware they are speaking as the insurer rather than the judge when discussing whoâs responsible and guilty.
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please tell! a crazy story needs pics or it didnât happen. ha!
Iâm pretty sure the story is up there somewhere in this thread. Long story short, Mr. Anime (he was in town for a convention) came to the kitchen table wearing a teeny towel that didnât cover up âMr. Happyâ very well. As for pictures, I donât think that would have been welcomed by him! :)))) It was all pretty humorous.
I would estimate that about 60% of our guests want to hug me when they leave. This includes lesbians, gay males, heterosexual males and heterosexual women - of all nationalities. I see nothing wrong with that and Iâm happy to hug - and yet as a Brit, Iâm supposed to have a âstiff upper lipâ and be aloof 
Lets face it @jaquo, that is because you are adorable.
Seriously speaking, I get along the same way with my guests and comes easy; having a positive attitude and not stress over the small negative things helps maintain enthusiasm.
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Enthusiasm is the most important thing! My goal is to share our lovely place with guests who appreciate exactly what I love. And Iâm so lucky because 99% of our guests do exactly that. 
Would you be happy to hug someone who had followed you around all morning repeatedly getting uncomfortably close to you, took his time âbrushing something out of your hairâ and then tries to kiss you?