Hi All –
I’m new to the forum and wasn’t able to search this topic successfully.
I’ve been a host for over a year, I love it, and I’m in the 95+% category as a host. I love making people at home and I’ve been very fortunate to have mostly amazingly kind and friendly guests over and over again. I rent a private room & bath in my home, and share the living room and kitchen with guests. The bulk of my guests have stayed 1 month or more, and less than half a week or less.
I currently have a very nice couple in their late 50s, who are visiting their son & daughter-in-law (who live nearby), and are staying with me. All are very friendly, and a seemingly loving, close family. They have taken to beginning and ending most days (4 of 5 so far) here at my house, with 3 or 4 “movie nights” where both my AirBnB guests and their kids watch television and movies until anywhere from 10pm-midnight or so, and visit, eat, drink, etc. It’s often a little loud (happy loud), and I just close doors and ignore it, but we’ve got a few days left and they seem intent on making my house the family gathering spot for their stay.
Tonight, I arrived home to another gathering, with mud tracked into the house. I asked folks to wipe feet when they come in… I spoke with the father after this evening’s gathering and let him know that I hadn’t expected to be hosting both them and their family gatherings, as it was never discussed. I said I felt it was perhaps inconsiderate to never check with me, especially since I wasn’t able to use the shared space myself in the evenings since they’d arrived. He kindly apologized, but offered neither a solution - nor to cease the gatherings. I asked if his kids had a television and he replied that there were a lot of people at their house, so it was inconvenient. I reminded him that I had agreed to rent the room and shared space to he and his wife and wasn’t aware that there would be visitors every day.
So I didn’t ask him to stop, I didn’t care to be an authoritarian, and I considered that perhaps he might be a little tipsy and not in a place to communicate well. I said I’d be glad to discuss the matter further if he had anything else to say later.
I’m guessing I’ll wait until tomorrow to revisit the topic. It’s not that their kids aren’t welcome - it’s just that I find it really inconsiderate to take the common spaces over without any discussion or planning, etc. I’m an accommodating host, but I feel like not consulting me is inconvenient, and a little rude.
I realize I need to add a clause to the house rules along these lines: “visitors are welcome with prior approval”. Any other feedback anyone has is welcome!
Thanks, and happy hosting!!!