No I meant the Airbnb fees, lol! In fact, thereās a message in my mailbox this morning from AirBnB customer service trying to get me to refund him early, after I declined his request yesterday. Heās still trying to harass me for a refund!
Yuck. I had a male guest book from australia to canada and suddenly needed to āchat and get to know eachotherā before his arrival. I kept avoiding his calls and emailsā¦Once here, he followed me around my house. Invited me to dinner and creeped me out. When i mentioned my partner who lived close by, he got visibly confused and upsetā¦it was a terrible week but unless the guest does something obvious, being a creep doesnt seem to be a reason to cancel. Ive asked my female guests about their experiences too and it goes both waysā¦they have had weird or creepy hostsā¦i do like the idea of a photo with a male friend!! Im doing thatā¦
I am wondering what @Ellen and @Magwitch would think of all the prejudice and profiling spoken about in this tread.
@Comfyroom, sorry for replying to your post. I am totally with you on this !
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And maybe have some photos of you and your āhusbandā in your place. And if necessary do some fake phone calls to your āhusbandā. Maybe even a wedding ring. Some of āhisā underwear drying in the garden? 
@eyeborg This is really a great idea. In case of suspecting homophobia me and my hubby could even invent some imaginary wives ! Yes, perfect idea 
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Honestly? I think itās pretty insulting to men to automatically assume that they are all potential rapists. But I understand that many single women feel safer hosting only other women. That is allowed under Airbnbās T&Cs. I believe in full gender equality so I think single male hosts should be permitted to only host other men too. There are predatory females out there too, yāknow.
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No one should ever automatically assume another individual is anything. And profiling is definitely problematic. But when one considers that 70+% of all crimes are committed by men, that 80+% of violent crimes are committed by men and that 98% of sexual assaults are committed by men. Studies show men admitting theyāve committed rape at a rate of 8-10%. I could go on with sexual assault statistics but itās quite astonishing. Yes, men are sexually assaulted too, mostly by men. (US statistics)
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Yesā¦ but you have to factor in to these stats the massive under-reporting by men of abuse and assault at the hands of female partners. Itās a significant problem and sadly ignored too often. Some stats show that 40% of domestic violence is perpetrated by women. And then thereās the evidence that assault on women is far more likely to come from men they know than from strangers.
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Iām confused as to why youāre confused! Maybe I should have said āI understand why they believe they are safer but I donāt necessarily think they actually areā. Or maybe we should start a debate on the hegemony of feminismā¦ that should be a barrel of laughs!!
Thatās the typical ācryā from a guy who is called out on his abuse. "You are abusing meā¦blah blah blah blahā¦wah wah wahā¦
I will always assume that all men are rapists. I come from a family of child molesters and you better believe I will profile any and every male.
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I too have experience of (male) domestic abuse and violence as a child and young adult (I donāt like the term āmolestationā as it seems to diminish the act. Itās violence and abuse of the worst kind). But I disagree vehemently with your conclusion that therefore ALL men are rapists and any man who dares to say his partner is abusive is automatically deemed to be covering up. It is so aggressive and unhelpful and the primary reason that male victims are afraid to speak out. You really think that women canāt be abusers too? Please.
I never said I think ALL men are rapists, but I will go on assuming they all are until proven otherwise.
I really donāt care about the minority who are abused by the woman. I can only fight one battle at a time Mag. And my battle would be to protect any child or woman from a molesterā¦period.
Iām not going to pretend to be āequal opportunity.ā - Iām not politically correct.
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Color me dense but I donāt get it. (It doesnāt help that I am one drink under and tackling a ton of posts to read.) So was this galās initial inquiry for a year in advance?..and because her initial inquiry only had to do about your cancellation policy, it caused you to flat-out decline her without explanation?..and did she come back and ask you those additional questions only to get your reasons for cancelling her?
How do you handle follow-up inquiries such as hers?
(Also, why are her avatars differentā¦first the Trump one and then the one showing columns or some such?)
I am sooo not following.
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Oh geezā¦and I thought my eyesight was stellar. Thereās no damn catā¦
oh, hang onā¦I see something black (in my alcoholic haze).
To be clear, I donāt discriminate or profile, I have instant book. But I donāt blame anyone who doesnāt want to the be the victim of a crime, any crime. I favor gender equality as well and am doing my part. But we are far from being there, especially in the realm of criminal behavior. If you only host women you are improving your odds, thatās all.
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I donāt see prejudice and profiling (again they are one and the same). I have no problem with people judging others due to their actual behavior. The problem comes when people guess at what others behavior might be like based on unrelated qualities such as ethnicity, religion, gender, etc. Iām giving you the benefit of the doubt in taking it at face value that you said you wonder what I think.
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Well you did say exactly that, actually. Itās a regressive stance, in my opinion, and does nothing to further the cause for true gender equality.
I donāt agree, Women are just as likely to be problematic guests. Iām tired of the women-are-eternal-victims narrative. Really tired of it.
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Donāt put words in my mouth Magwitch. I already clarified for you above. I said I would āassumeā until proven otherwise. Of course I do not āthinkā every male is a rapist.
But you go on fighting your equal opportunity fightā¦
At least Tyler Perry and Oprah Winfrey are fighting the real fight regarding male abuse. Tyler Perry has been an outspoken male and I can bet he never would say ājust give every stranger an equal opportunity.ā
I really donāt care what you think.
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@Magwitch
I guess weāre not talking about the same topic. I was talking about crime data in the US as it relates to gender. If you can find where I said anything of women as victims, per se, please repost it. Iām intending to focus on men as perpetrators. Men who only host women would also be improving their odds. But a man that said āwomen guests onlyā would probably not get many bookings.
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