Well, I’m impressed because I don’t think either of us are really tracking each other, lol.
We live upstairs so we don’t have to worry about party activity, fortunately.
To complicate the discussion further, for our 2-bedroom apts we do charge per guest, each guest after the first guest is charged as an extra guest, up to 4 guests as a max. But a few times, there’s a been a group of 4 that has asked if a 5th could stay and since they were already paying a lot for the max of 4, I just let them have the 5th for free. It’s only been a few times and it was always someone nice who asked nicely.
But maybe I take some wild chances, one time it was 5 guys coming to a Phish concert. I thought of my fellow hosts here when they unloaded a bunch of guitars into the apartment. (they ended up being perfect guests). And then there were the college kids having a wine and movies night who had a friend who felt left out so they wanted to invite her at the last minute. (they also ended up being perfect guests). Of course I would be less adventurous if I didn’t live upstairs. I don’t blame you at all for being strict!
I call it dishonest too. You are right about it being dishonest. And I think everyone is aware of what a hardass I am about honesty My groups of 5 were all honest with me, otherwise it wouldn’t have worked out for them.
If it helps to publish it, as a sort of fine, then that makes sense. We all have such different situations. I just recently booked a place for later this month. And as much as I poke at lengthy house rules lists, he doesn’t have any so I’m afraid of fking up, lol.
My point was that everyone should have an extra guest fee in their price settings so that they can get paid if the situation arises that they have more guests than they want but that it doesn’t encourage extra guests because the fee itself is not published.
And, for the record, we’ve never had any extra stress or extra trouble by charging per guest. On the occasion that I need to explain it, people are into it, they get it.